What are some signs that a therapist may have poor boundaries with their clients?
11.06.2025 08:17
Obsessing about clients outside of work hours.
Sense of competition with persons who are important in the client’s life.
Struggling with fantasies of deeper connections with clients, whether sexual or parental or other intense or intimate relationships beyond psychotherapy.
Eager anticipation (or anxious anticipation) of the next session in ways that distract.
Failing to mention the client in supervision/consultation, out of fear the supervisor/consultant will advise return to ordinary healthy boundaries.
These items can happen fleetingly, briefly, in any therapy, but if they’re frequent, it’s definitely time for the therapist to get some good, solid supervision/consultation.
Why do men first look at a woman's chest instead of their face?
Routinely going over the time limit with certain patients, compromising the time for the next client.
Session-expressed curiosities about client details not relevant to the therapy.
Disclosing feelings, fantasies, and experiences to the client in ways not related to the work the client is engaged in.
Is it okay for a wife who comes home from a date to tell her husband what she did?
Serious disappointment when the client cancels a session.
General Introduction to Boundaries from Panahi Counseling:
Frequent phoning or texting of clients to “check up on them and make sure they’re OK.”
Why do some of those who believe in a god refuse to consider the possibility they could be wrong?
Off the top of my ancient head: